hello hello hi my name's Gail i'm calling from Texas hi i'm Sandy i'm in Texas too oh what a deal hm took long enough to find you oh really yeah seems like they take forever any more but um so did you hear what the topic was did she tell you okay yes yeah great well if you're ready then uh i'll just go ahead and start okay hold on okay okay well i guess we're supposed to talk about the changing roles of women yeah seems like um to me everything is just changing so much that it's almost like um you can't keep up with things any more and everything is uh there everyone's striving so much to make it equal between men and women i personally i'm a stay home mom and i like it the way it used to be so am i are you i you know i think it's kind of coming back around to that don't you i mean that there's a lot more people that stay home now than before but i guess more than anything i think maybe people were just kind of wanting to have the choice of what they could do you know yeah i don't know i mean i think sometimes some of the the women's lib though is kind of like they wanted it all you know and you can't have everything um-hum i don't i don't think that you can have i mean there's no way i could have a career and then be the kind of mom that i wanna be yeah and to me that's more important how how many kids do you have two are they young or two um-hum five and two five and two i have two and mine are two and nine months so um being being home is real i i just am fortunate because i don't know a real lot of moms that get to stay home and uh i just it's just weird that i was just talking to somebody this morning who's who's a working uh lady a working mom and you know these people have secretaries and these high power jobs and it just seems like um she she told me now her daughter took her first steps at the day care and uh i just think i i i just don't agree with that i think it should be that people should get back to staying home and and being family more family oriented than than not you know it seems like everybody's always so busy with everything that they're doing that there's no time for this and that and the other and i hope it just doesn't get to where you know there's more women more and more women going into the work force well i agree i mean but i i hate for them to make people feel bad that have to work too saying you know you should stay home you know otherwise your children aren't going to you know turn out or whatever because that's not fair to yeah you know like the single moms that have to work or if they wouldn't be able to make ends meet um-hum not working or whatever i mean i think it's got to be a personal choice and it's nice that that we could have the choice to stay home yeah well i find that i whenever i have to whenever i'm in a group of people and we're discussing things like just over the weekend i visited my family and some cousins i hadn't seen in a long time and everyone's all interested in what everybody's doing and uh you know well i had my baby with me and i found that all i talked about was my baby which was fine with me but it's like you know here these people are they're going to school getting degrees making all this money and you know they kind of looked at me like i was from the dark ages you know like i because i didn't have really all that much to talk about uh where career and things like that were concerned i mean you kind of feel little bit like an outcast for a while yeah in social situations sometimes which is too bad because you know i i feel like i don't obviously i don't get paid for my job but i should get paid at least double what my husband makes working in an office for staying home that's what i figure i'm worth a lot as for what i do yeah every day but you know i don't know he's kind of a um at at least here i've noticed i'm not from here i'm from Colorado but i've really noticed that there are a lot of uh a lot more people that are more comfortable at least with some women being home and at least in the circles i've traveled and in the church that i go to you know that men don't treat you like you don't know anything generally yeah speaking well and i think a lot of companies are realizing this and offering more opportunities as far as like job sharing or you know even having a day care on site and that kind of stuff and i think that's really important yeah that that they do that and they realize there's a need for that and um i don't know i found when i did do some work when my son was young it was like contract work and it wasn't where i had to be there every day but i mean we're going to the doctor once a week so i don't know how you could have a full time job and ever have any vacation time to do anything besides go to the doctor yeah yeah i can see where that would definitely hinder the problem definitely well