okay i think we're all set there hopefully
well uh care of the elderly is something that is hitting pretty close to home at me uh right now my father-in-law has uh
been diagnosed with terminal cancer
and my mother-in-law is in a wheel chair so this is something that i've been thinking quite a bit about lately
and uh
i'm i feel pretty strongly and the rest of my family does that is long as someone is able to care for
uh someone else
that they shouldn't be put in a home but there's there's a very hard question of of what happens when someone isn't able to provide that care for themselves
um
in the case of my mother-in-law she's not able to to bathe herself but she's sharp as a tack at this point and
what sort of facilities are available for that person it's hard because you think of a home and you're really thinking of
of uh old people left somewhere to uh you know fairly forgotten and that's
that's that's a hard thing and i'm sure not all of them are like that
well unfortunately that's the typical picture though
yeah
so it's it's very hard to find a facility that would allow uh allow someone of fair degree of autonomy in their life
but yet would still be there to help provide some of the basic services
is your mother-in-law currently uh living in a nursing home or anything
no she's not um
she's still at home and her son has has moved back into the house uh which which was not as inconvenient as it sounds because uh
um my father-in-law and my brother-in-law have a dental lab in the basement so he was working out of the house anyway
uh so it it's a little less
uh it's it's not all that inconvenient for him
but
the rest of the kids are scattered uh throughout the northeast
and he doesn't want to feel that he's
uh he's going to be completely responsible for this only because he happens to live right there with with my in-laws
have you guys thought about the financial burden
of caring for
your mother-in-law as far as putting her in a nursing home down the road
that that has we've all thought about that fortunately uh that doesn't seem to be a big problem but
that we there's some thought that has to be given to to uh
to the property for instance they have about four three or four acres in Connecticut
and what no one wants to see is uh that land having to be sold off simply to keep her in a in a nursing home what we'd like to do
is uh find the sort of place where i try described before where she'd be able to have uh a place of her own but yet also have someone come in a couple of times a day to help her with various
various things and have someone there in case she falls or something
well my mother my grandmother is in a place similar to that where she has emergency buttons throughout the throughout the house or actually the apartment
um-hum
and she's about eighty one and she lives she has her own little area for gardening and so forth it's in the housing authority up here
um-hum
and it's
that's great
when she first moved up here she ended up living in uh tall apartment building a complex that was very similar to a hospital
um-hum
a very negative feeling when you walked in the building
right
and now she's been very fortunate
in that she's almost almost like living in a small home
that's that's great
and she she still has an a large maintenance staff take care of the place look after her
provide uh
basic busing services and travel
um-hum
uh
i'm hoping that the trend is toward places like that
as
the population in America uh
lives for a longer period of time uh
i i guess thirty years ago when when you were that age and you weren't able to really care for yourself
you really weren't going to uh you know be around that much longer and so the level of care required
was was different but now people are are living longer and can uh
can have injury
