hello
hello this is Jim in Dallas uh how you doing
fine i'm Callie in Garland
oh you're right here okay yeah i'm i'm actually working tonight i just uh called and came in
yes
oh are you
so do you work at TI
yeah you
yeah i just got a little booklet uh this not what we're supposed to talk about just got a little booklet in the mail with the gifts and i thought oh i better make some calls
i know i know aren't they
yeah well i haven't get a chance i haven't got a chance to look at them yet
i love it in the
it was a lot nicer than i expected
my daughter uh got a few calls at home she talked to some student in i guess they give them to computer students too
and uh
Virginia or something like that she's talked to two students
i've talked to i don't think they were students one i think worked at a university university um and the furthest away i've talked to someone has been New York
yeah
oh yeah great uh we're supposed to talk about the elderly now i guess uh
so
yes we are
do you have anybody that you uh have are close to that decision on or anything or i've thought about it for myself and all and my wife my wife's mother is uh
in a retirement home she's not in a nursing home uh
oh well that's not did you push the button
yeah did i did we push
did you
let me i'll hit it again just in case
okay just in case
i did it right as she said yeah
but uh she's she's down in San Antonio it's it's a uh
now what's
oh
it's a brand new one it's a Catholic uh
retirement home for nuns it's at uh Trinity no let me see Trinity i keep calling it Trinity it's not Trinity i'll think of
oh
Incarnate Word and they have a retirement home for the nuns and they take some lay people
well isn't that neat
isn't that neat
yeah and that one's really super now i i know what they're talking about on regular retirement yeah there's not too many they do have a wing where the people who are really sick you know have nurses
uh-huh oh that's good
and then they have other wings that we visited uh that are very nice i mean it's just super
that's neat just supervised more or less than anything and security i guess for them
oh yeah they they they have uh like uh a guard with locks we've been there once at night at Christmas she just went in last year
oh
she drives and everything she she's perfectly healthy uh
right what made you all decide to put her or had what made her decide to go
well her husband died they were in the military together and she just did not want to take care of the house
right by herself
and she visited the place and then fell in love with it and decided to just shun all responsibilities of any kind so to speak and so
ah
well that's good
she's happy as as heck uh and they serve meals of course
that's great
and they have clubs and a swimming pool so that's nice now i
i know the ones where you're really ill we visited a long time ago when she had a grandmother that was in one
um-hum
and they were all more or less hospitalized type you know really really sick it's a tough question
right shut-ins and
yeah it really is i worked at one as a teenager i volunteered at at
oh you got experience more experience than i do then on it
well it was really it was really sad heartbreaking i guess
yeah yeah
and uh i just oh i just felt for those people that especially the ones that never got visited
oh that would be awful i never thought about that you know
that just bothered me
that just bothered me so much especially you know at my age i was probably about fourteen
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and that really made a bad impression on me so i've always thought
not not really bad of them i mean because they are most of them i i believe are probably pretty good for the people but
i don't know it's just a
that would be a tough tough decision
yeah i think that uh hopefully we as a country are learning a little more about it and they're getting nicer
right
i've seen on TV where they take animals and young children in fact my daughter is one my wife took my daughters one year when they were getting some points for school took them to an elderly home and boy that really pumps them up that uh
helps yeah
is very nice to see young people i think that's one of the sad things is when you're in an older home
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if you just have people your own age you never get a chance to see kids or anything or animals or anything you know you can't take care of them
right
right
obvious obvious you can't take care of children or animals in a nursing home but it's nice to have them visit and everything
right
yeah and get that youth back
yeah
you know sometimes that even helps them you know just being around young people the because some of them are so
um you know just stationary i mean they'll get in a wheelchair or they'll just sit in a chair and and till you come along and really try and pump them up they're just
right
stationary and i feel like gosh that's all they do all day long
so
um so i do love to see young kids go and and men take the pets and everything i think that's a real real neat idea
yeah i think you do get more by stimulation stimulation my in fact my mother-in-law just visited she's just about seventy five again perfectly fine
yeah
but one and and she visit us here in in Dallas
when she went back every time she goes back to uh San Antonio my wife has two sisters there too she said she's much better she's much more alive and and uh active when she's been on a visit with somebody else you know and
that's
yeah
and our routine has come obviously hectic with teenagers and everything and she's much and so the stimulation part is really important i think like any animal anything you just lay around uh that's the fastest way to die i think you know
right
right
stagnant yeah that's exactly right i think they're really neat um of course i've seen those reports on TV the horrible ones and that scares me
oh yeah i'm afraid i'm a TV flipper anything bad i like i like to flip i flip it off but it is sad it's sad yeah
it really is it it's sad to think that we would do that to people and you know i've seen them on TV with uh bed sores and
oh yeah
uh they just stay in the same clothes or the same sheets and not do laundry and i just think how can you do that these these people have given so much of their lives you know to
to America you know or whatever and here is here is how we treat them we just put them in a home and leave them
yeah
right when i was uh younger we i lived in the east i'm from the east really
and it seemed like there several people that i knew that had their uh parents i guess they would be but well in their seventy living with them
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and one of them was even a woman who was fairly old and i guess she she had her own separate room and i think whether it's more a custom up there or maybe because i was younger and it's just not a custom anymore
right
to have uh you know the grandparents live with you anymore i guess that uh well we are getting away from that which is not right
i think it's
right i think it's neat i think uh you learn a lot from them you
oh yeah
from all their experiences and and that's one of my favorite things to do sit around and listen to their stories
oh right right
i think that's neat because they really have a lot of good ideas insights
that my father my husband's father is really old he he had him late in life and he's he'll be eighty this year
yeah
oh
and i just uh he lives with different
you know people in the family he'll switch from time to time i just
well that's nice in a lot of ways
yeah i just couldn't imagine locking not locking him up but putting him in a home and just
but that you were implying you said that by mistake yeah right
lock him up
that's what i think about it for me i think well my kids better not do that to me i don't want that you know so i i think of it well how would i want to be treated rather than
oh i know i know
right right right
exactly
you know it's easy to say well yeah let's let's put these old folks in a home but when i think i don't want to do that you know i don't want to be have my little home i always threaten my daughters i say well
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that's right
i'm going to build a little house behind yours and then and i'll take care of your lawn he says but i'm not going to one of those places right yeah
oh you're not going to put me away that's what my mother she always you're going to lock me up one day aren't you i can tell i can tell you're going to lock me up
that's what we that's the way we call it which is really wrong but my wife's mother and the one she's in San Antonio it's you know it's everything but the opposite of what you've seen i mean it's it's a little hotel hotel you might say
i know it
right
that's great
again a swimming pool and grounds
and she has enough room she has two bedrooms and a and a separate living area
gosh
they don't have kitchens or anything but they have little it's like uh
right
on each floor they have a little kitchen area where you can go down and have a make a meal you know
yes
prepare your
well that's great can now can she leave um on a day by herself
oh yeah it's it's it's nothing like that it's like living in the hotel i mean she's totally on her own
oh man that's neat
uh and she still drives which we do does scare us some because she has dented a few things you know
yeah
and we keep thinking about that you know because she they get less alert and they don't care and i've seen some of these elderly people on TV you know the ones from Florida that just run into people and they don't even understand what happened you know
right
right
i know bless their hearts you hate to hurt them by doing that that's like their one last thing that they can still do and you take away that driving ability and that would really be hard we've
i know
i i know go ahead i'm sorry
uh well we've thought about doing that for for my husband's father because he's
oh he still drives
yeah
that's great well it's wonderful in one one respect but i don't know if you can afford the insurance yeah
well luckily he drives a big old tank
yeah
so he i mean i don't think he he could get hurt i just hope to God he doesn't ever hurt anyone but he he hasn't had any accidents luckily
right
that's good i mean people are all different
yeah yeah
i i wonder if they should give them a test or at least maybe uh not take their license maybe give them a refresher driving course and just to just to see how well they are every five years
right
i saw that on Twenty Twenty that
are they doing it
they um you know they're testing that they're you know thinking of doing that and i think that'd be a great idea because
you i think they do come become less aware and
they just
i don't know they and they don't hear as well for one thing and that doesn't help
yeah
well everybody needs retraining it doesn't hurt uh
no that's
you know the best football players and all the opera singers still have coaches and i don't know why you couldn't
after sixty five every five years have a refresher course and then take another driving it would it would sure the insurance companies would would probably help pay for some of that you know
right
right at least that way the burden's not on the family of taking their license or their car away
right there you go there's a good point very good point
it's on the state
very good point but i think they need should do that and then the families will have said
