okay no my father was in a nursing home and
uh-huh
i just uh i really hope that i would just die before before and matter of fact you know i feel the same way for my mother
yeah
how long ago was that
uh he was in the nursing home about four years ago but he was you know in there for several years
okay
yes but that was uh okay so that was fairly recent and even then
yes
a lot of the conditions i think you're right they haven't improved that much
no they haven't and they they uh
the way they the way the uh nurses and the nurses aids and they treat them
yeah um-hum yeah the
they treat them they treat them just utterly horrible they cuss them they tell them how sorry they are and that they're you know they uh one uh aid told him that he was no longer a man
yeah
huh
you know i mean good you know it's it's it's really really bad and and on and on top of that i worked in a i'm i'm out of the warehouse now but i worked in a warehouse in the company for the company that i'm working for now
sounds tough
yeah
right
and
two of the women that were utterly horrible
uh-huh
worked uh in the nursing home worked off and on for years in nursing home and they hate old people
oh yeah that's that doesn't seem right does it
yeah oh yeah that's really i'll say you know this really makes me feel good about what's going but uh
yeah
i you know you walk into one of those places and you basically start to feel depressed because they don't
a lot of places don't have a good atmosphere they're just it's almost like they just shove people in there and wait for them to die
right
you know and it's it's really it's a bad problem uh i work at Honeywell up here and i was talking to a guy that's actually working toward mobility aids for handicap people
and one of the things he's done is interview uh nursing home directors because they're looking for get this they're trying to find out ways to restrain patients
so that they don't look like they're restrained because apparently the family members who come to visit get upset understandably upset when they see that their loved one is in restraints you know
uh at the same time you have to restrain him because they might hurt themselves they might stand up and not be able to to stay stood up or might fall down or whatever
oh how horrible
right
so it's an interesting problem that's just one of the many things that you know you have to think about in a nursing home
right
but you know the stuff that you told me is there's no excuse for that you know
i know it there is no excuse that uh
uh
you know my uh one thing you really must do you know i feel like that go to a nursing home drop in at times that you don't normally drop in
right stuff when they're not on their guard you know
right and don't uh i i would go visit a nursing home uh several different times several different nursing homes before
you came to the point of having to put a family member in there
oh sure you know it's it's really a good idea to look at places and see what's out there and see what the the modes of treatment are
right
and and how people act
right it's uh it's you you it's the same it's the same premise as day care for a child
yeah you know it really is you know that brings up a good point i've got a friend of mine up here and we were talking about this because his father is getting to the age where they're going to have to decide what to do and
uh-huh
he brought up a real interesting suggestion that works well for families that have a lot of kids in it like i come i come from a family that has five kids
uh-huh
uh-huh
well the way he said it was
our parents
spent you know quite a bit of time when we were young taking care of us you know call it call it three years per child now if you have five children that's fifteen years total
certainly
uh-huh
therefore shouldn't it be right that they should be able to stay with one family member uh in a rotating fashion for fifteen years free of charge
well you dadgum right if you know
there you go it it's essentially repayment
right if you uh
if the uh parent and the children will do that but there's okay
yeah that's it but the thing is hold on i got one more thing and i'll let you talk because we started talking about that you know we started saying well you know some family members might not agree to do that
i'm sorry
right
and he said fine let the one who does agree to do it keep him keep the father keep the father or mother for a longer time and charge the family member who doesn't cooperate just say basically look
uh i'll take care of mom and dad for you but you have to give me a kind of a payment for doing that for you
right
you know so essentially it it relieved them of the burden
uh-huh
uh
and at the same time everybody kind of comes out happy i don't know if that would work but then again it it depends on the family size
right it may work with some families and it may not work at all with some families you know but my Lord you know i had a a
yeah uh-huh
